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LOSS OF PRIVACY

Internet is one of the main pastime of every individual. We tend to broadcast almost everything in it. The things that we usually do, our bonding with our family and friends. Photos, videos, and even slideshows will be posted sooner or later in face book, multiply, twitter and any social networking thingy. But the question is… are we sure that these photos and memories will be secured forever?

How sure are we that we’re the only ones viewing all those stuffs?

Things like that. In short, privacy is equals to security.

I believe that in social networking, It is impossible for you to be a private person because every little thing about you will be broadcast and sometimes, without your knowing.

 This is one thing I hate about social networking but sometimes, instead of being at those posts or blogs, sometimes all you need is to laugh at those things and suddenly, everything will go back to normal.

I guess the best thing to do about these issues is that we should be very careful of what we are going to show to the public or co users so that we won’t get insulted or bragged at in that kind of post or display in our facebook,multiply,twitter, and all kind of accounts that could be found in the internet.

"BE DISCREET AND ALERT"

MY OWN PHENOMENOLOGICAL OF LOVE

Love, though a simple single word could be defined in a thousand ways and

all of the people have their own perceptions about it. Love can be found anywhere.It is for everyone.

Romantically speaking, love is not like a lightning, that once you've seen the person you thought was meant for you, you will be struck and suddenly the time will froze, its not like that. I honestly believed that love is a step by step process that was ought to learn by anyone. For some, love corresponds pain but for me, it doesn't have to be like that because what I've learned is that, Love was made to ease the pain and not to cause pain. Perhaps,if the couple or one of them didn't do anything to make the relationship work or your partner hurt you in whatever manner(physically or emotionally). Its not love that caused you pain, its the person. Just like the things that was mentioned by my philosophy professor in relation with our topic about phenomenology, some things are just accidents in a certain topic or situation or person but then again, it doesn't mean that it is true. 

Based on my experience, Love doesn't have to require equal interaction just to be called love. Example: Love between parent and child, it is called disinterested giving. You are loving your parents without really noticing it. I, myself, experienced that. Another concrete example is a girl who is loving a guy from a distance (not to be taken literally) although the girl is loving the guy sincerely, the guy can only offer friendship. The girl knew that but despite that reason, she still continue to love him and never ask anything in return. This situation could also    be categorized in the definition of love. Last example, When God gave his only son just to save us from all of our sins. Some of the people didn't even paying attention to it but still God did it. That's a very selfless love.

Whatever the case may be, If you're talking about LOVE, You just have to show it. Period. No questioning of how would you have it back. NO BUTS AND IFS.

Love ca't be measured by anything because it wasn't made to be weigh or to be counted. It is the most important thing we could ever have. If all your riches in the world were all gone at least you have one thing. LOVE.

A daughter's Lament

Every girl is dreaming to have a complete family. A kind of family that’s happy and very supportive to each and every member of it. I am of them.

            I grew up without having a father by my side, I mean because he’s working abroad during those times up to now. He’ll be in different countries for about 9-10 months then he’ll be back here in the Philippines for vacation. One thing I noticed about him is every time he’ll be here, it’s like he doesn’t have any intentions of being a father to us. He’ll only talk to us when he needs something. He didn’t even bother to ask us how’s our studies going, did we (me and my brother) have received any achievements or something like that. I never hear any of those from him. Sometimes I get exasperated in his attitude because instead of mingling with his kids (with us), He’d rather be alone or going somewhere else to keep himself busy. Is that a right way to be a father or he wasn’t taught how to be a good one? Well I don’t believe one should be taught just to be good to a certain skill and being a father is not a kind of skill one should learn, it will naturally come out. As a father, you should be the one reminding your kids about the things they ought to know, things that can never be learned in school or by peers or else something terrible might happen or worse, something destructible which I know any parent wouldn’t want to happen to their own child.

            He never told us his story and I felt like his not even interested to share any of those memories he had way back when he was still at our age, way back when his parents were still alive. Until my mama told me that he was mistreated by his father, he was working so hard to be able for him have money for his needs basically academic needs but his father would just get all those money and throw it all up for a cock fight and due to bad faith, his father will lose. And at the end of the day, he is broke. All the money he got from working all day was vanished because of the irresponsibility of his father. I guess from that day on, he promised to himself not to be like that when he became a father that he wouldn’t allow his children to experience that. Yes, luckily, he wasn’t that kind of father to us. But he’s so numb. He didn’t even know us, literally, because he didn’t observed us grow and the thing is…He’s not reaching out to us, I, personally wants to talk to him and know his story but I am afraid he would reject my offer. He seldom laugh, his face is always serious. He seemed deep but shallow. He always blames me for being a careless spender. He always sees if there is something wrong with everybody except himself. But he wouldn’t even bother to ask if there is something wrong with him that’s why we’re treating him like a stranger to us because at one point, He really is.

            I wish he could realize what we really want from him. It’s not the money but his willingness. It’s not the gadgets that he bought for us but his presence. And it’s not the chocolates that he gives us but his love. If a mother’s love is incomparable, nothing could be greater than a father’s love. That’s just what I want. Is that hard to ask?

Little Things Matter

     Big things come from small things. A building won’t be build without materials such as hollowed blocks and cements. A cake won’t be formed without flour. A fisherman won’t catch fish without bait or a lure. A cell phone won’t function without its battery. A student won’t be able to write his/her homework without a pen. Any individual who is studying or working won’t be able to enter in such establishment without an ID. A poem won’t sound good if it didn’t come from the heart. A family without communication is like strangers living in one house. A Microsoft PowerPoint presentation won’t be good to watch at if it lacks animation.

                Sounds ironic right? Small things can affect the whole thing. One word that was removed in the sentence or phrase can actually change the whole story. One fatal error can ruin the relationship you’d been treasuring for years.

                Imagine living your life without that small things, small things that can make other people happy. Those small things you treat is their life, that those small things could also be a part of your life. It might make or break your life. Just like money, did you ever thought of that?

                Here are some proofs: In most cases here in the Philippines, some couple would fight over single money that was spent. Most of the relatives were having squabbles just because of the money or land they will inherit from a dying rich relative. Freaking true! It happens in real life!

                Think of it… its just a small thing but it can really ruin everything, relationships, family, and even a society! So, give sympathy to such things you treat as small. Beware and spare yourself from those people who were fighting for such a shallow thing.

                Now I can really say that SMALL but TERRIBLE could be justified in this aspect.

              Balance things over because there’s always a solution for every problem which you think is big.

A Lover’s note

            I was once a lover… to whom? I also don’t know… I could be a lover to every guy I fell in love with, but the question is… could they or he be… a lover to me?

            I’ve always been dreaming to be a girlfriend of a guy who’ll treats me right, who’ll say I’m the one for him, who’ll see me and love for being me and the one who’ll stay despite the fact that he was  surrounded by some beautiful girls. The one who’ll be proud to tell the world that I am his girl.

            Nowadays,it’s really hard to find a person who’ll stick with you till the end… because most of the guys defined beauty as something that could be seen outside. Fair complexion, vital statistics, pretty face… that is beauty to them…What they didn’t know is… External beauty will fade through years. Only the personality or one’s character will remain until the end.

            I am just a girl who’s looking for someone who could be right there next to me whatever happens. The one who’s more than a lover to me…  Someone I can call a partner.

            In my twenty years of existence, currently a 2^nd year mass communication student in Adamson University (supposedly a graduating Tourism student but for some circumstances, I failed to finish it). Well, talking about having a relationship, I never had a serious one. My recent suitor was Jake; I was forth year high school way back then. Seemed too long, well that’s life. I wasn’t born with such beauty that could be appreciated by everyone. I only look gorgeous once I put my make up on. (At first, I hated that idea but now, I’m used to it. If you have your make up on then you’re gorgeous if not, then not. You’ll just look pale in front of the crowd.)

            Back when I was in high school, I wasn’t really attractive. I am beautiful in the eyes of some but not in the eyes of many. But as I grew up, I realized that I have to look presentable, at all times. And I have to keep on mind that you’ll only look good if and only if you’ll feel good about yourself because I agree in the saying… “Real beauty comes from within”.

            I am not worrying anyway because I know someday; God will let me meet that person in his own time and place. I may not have a perfect relationship that is yet to come but I’ll make sure that every second count.

Time over tomorrow

            Life is short. You didn’t know when or how you’re life will end. Death might come anytime without any prior notice. No time and no specific date. Well, that’s a fact but the thing is… are you going to just let it happen? Will you allow that your life will be as meaningless as a dummy?

Think it over. If tomorrow never runs out, time is slowly vanishing. There are things you can continue tomorrow but you can never change what had happened no matter how hard you try.

You can never go back to the time you committed mistake. There’s no such thing as a time machine that you can use just to correct all those things that you’ve done wrongly.

“Live like you’re going to die tomorrow”, I remember this quote from my professor in Philosophy class when I was in my first year college (2^nd semester). That quote has a lot of things to explain. I just know, that this quote is trying to tell everybody that as long as we’re breathing we should make right decisions so that our life will be meaningful and not just a piece of crap. That was my perspective about life before until I went to college and decide for my own (anyway, I’m always like that… I don’t want anyone to dictate me about what shall I do with my life because I own this, even my parents can’t hold me, except for financial cases, that’s the only way they can control me, but in other aspects, I am the one in charge for myself.) I am not being rebellious or something but my point is in order for you to have a “quality-lived life”, (yeah, that’s my term for It.) you should live your life to the fullest, in short; maximize it in whatever order you like.

Life is divided in some several parts: Academic life, [Socio-cultural, Sports, Music,] Activity life (you cannot choose all of them unless you’re able to manage all of these at the same time) Social life, Love life and Spiritual life. To elaborate each of those, here is the first one: Academic life usually deals with studying, mainly, your life as a student and believe it or not, we spend half of our life in school. We learn new stuffs such as how a caterpillar becomes a butterfly and other academic stuffs, things that could only be taught in school and I consider learning is fun (especially when you are interested and you enjoy doing it but if not, better yet change your perspective about studying because you have nothing to do but to endure it).   Next in line is the Activity life, well, apparently it is divided into three categories: Socio-cultural, sports and music.

I’ll say something about my favorite first, the socio-cultural. Definitely it is all about theater. All in one jam-packed thing. You could be a singer, dancer and actress at the same time. Here also, you can be a writer, a producer or even a director of your own show, your own stage play in any theme you’d like to present. Creativity is all in here. Thinking out of the box is one routine that everyone cannot avoid. Productions, costumes and make up are all involved here. So if you think it’s your thing? Go ahead and join some theater organizations inside and outside the school. It’ll be your training ground for you to be an ultimate performer you could ever imagine. By owning the stage, that’s how it takes.

Secondly, is the life in Sports. If you think you are a sports-minded type of person, your thing is always doing the jogging and push-ups as your daily routine then this one is just right for you. The world of sports is exciting. You’ll be able to go trip around the world if you’re one of the best athlete in town. You’ll be able to fight with other nationalities in honor of your own country. “Be the country’s pride”, that’s what every coach is trying to teach their athletes. We’ll that says true, because if you won’t, your talent and ability will just go into waste. And I know, none of them wants that to happen.

The last category is your life in Music. As for what everybody says, Music is everything. It could make you express your deepest thoughts. It could switch your mood. It could make you dance and do the stuffs you unusually do. You could be persuaded by music, as sweet and as smooth as it is.

Some people would join a chorale because of their love for classical music. Some would even form a band to express their love for their own genre such as rock, acoustic or reggae. Everybody just can’t get enough of it. Just can’t get enough about music because without it life would be so terribly dull and devastating. So if you have passion for music, kill each dull moment with it and make your own music too.

Then what we have next is Social life. Not everyone has it. For some, they treat social life by hanging out in the bars almost every night, drink and meeting new people there or thru internet shops by playing DOTA you could simply earn a friend or friends because you both have the same interests or it could be an outreach program wherein you voluntarily join and meet new people. Social life isn’t just about having fun and sharing the same interests, yes, indeed it’s about meeting new people and connecting with them then if lucky, they’ll continue such bond and hopefully it will end up into friendship. The start of one’s journey is about to begin.

Next stop is Love life… do you have one? Some would answer yes and some would answer no. But whatever the case maybe… that is one stage in our lives that we will learn to love and care about a certain person and we’ll receive the price in return but not all were given the chance to have their love back because you can never teach a person to love you unless he/she voluntarily give it to you. That was the sad part but don’t fret because one thing’s for sure. You’ll never be alone in this world. Every single individual will find their destined partner, it may not be today, it may not be tomorrow but it is yet to come. You don’t have to wait nor hope for it, for love will come to you unexpectedly when you least expected.

Last but not the least is the Spiritual life. The big question is. Do you still have it? Most of the people would say, “Yes, of course I do” but the truth is… He just say it but he never did. I just proved that it is easier said than done. I, myself is not exempted from that. I admit I oftentimes forget that I have to worship the Lord, our God. To meditate, pray and talk to him once in a while so that our life will be guided accordingly because at the end of our life, we’ll never know where we are going. Only God knows everything.

At this point, you’ll know that there are a lot of options you can choose from. The best choice you think you’d fit in. but be careful in choosing because it might lead you to nowhere, it might make or break your life. Tomorrow never runs out but what if it does? You have a lot of time to fix things up but what if you’re losing it without even noticing it? What could be if what might have been?

Look.

Pause.

Think.

Act.

Be Happy.

Because life is not always as it may seem.

Unveil the mystery of your tomorrow by managing your time.